Trust

Letting go of control isn’t weakness… it’s the doorway to alive connection.

When I told my husband, “You don’t need to ask for permission, I trust you,” I could literally see the relief spread across his body. His response was full of gratitude. He smiled, moved closer, and showed me adoration and affection in a way that felt completely new.

Our connection shifted in a profound way after I began healing my nervous system and practicing new skills around intimacy. And one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned through this work is that my sense of safety in the relationship is actually my responsibility to cultivate.

That often looks like listening to my fear and metabolizing it in my body.

And even while I am still learning to embody a deeper sense of safety, where trust arises naturally, I practice trust by choice. Trust in myself and my husband. It’s a subtle but powerful shift: moving from trying to control outcomes or protect, to leaning into connection, presence, and care.

In practice, it’s about being a lover, not a mother… holding space without managing, inspiring and modeling the culture you want to see in your relationship without controlling, and trusting the flow of intimacy to emerge naturally.

Letting go of control doesn’t make us vulnerable in a weak way. It opens the door to connection that is authentic, mutual, and deeply fulfilling.