Trust
When I told my husband “you don’t need to ask for permission, I trust you” I could physically see the relief all over his body. His response was full of gratitude, as he smiled and moved in close with all the adoration and affection.
Our connection was overhauled and made new after I started healing my nervous system and implementing new skills around intimacy. And one of the greatest lessons I learned was that my sense of safety in the relationship was actually my responsibility to cultivate. That often looked like letting go of fear and trusting myself and my husband even when I felt scared.