She’s Allowed to Be Here

“Wholeness comes from staying in relationship with every part of myself.”

Life has been sweet lately. I’ve been eating the fruit of acceptance; a deep, beautiful work that brings a lot of things to the surface. The veil seems thin between the parts of me I’m starting to come into healthy relationship with. The wounded part. The protective part. The part of me that is whole and the parts of me that are fragmented. They are beginning to coexist in a safe, embodied way, and it’s life changing.

When I feel angry, I notice it as a separate piece that helps create my full sense of self. She is a really important piece to my being. And she’s allowed to be here, to have a seat at the table.

When I feel anxious, I place my hand on my heart as a warm, inviting gesture because anxiety is allowed to be here. The part of me that feels anxious… she’s allowed to be here. When I feel critical, she’s allowed to be here. When I feel scared, she’s allowed to be here. The girl that feels shame in a memory that visits me, she’s allowed to be here. This memory is allowed to surface and show me these parts of myself that I’m still learning how to hold.

It’s the same for all my emotions, thoughts, memories, and processes… they are all welcomed, as they are.

This kind of acceptance is about how I relate to and witness my inner world, shifting me out of fear and judgment and into intuition, love, and trust. It’s an openness that heals.

You see each time I feel an uncomfortable emotion through sensation, instead of suppressing it or trying to force it into a process where I don’t feel it anymore, I let it be while supporting my system. The very act of letting it be –with empathy– touches the part of me that is bringing that emotion forward, softening how intensely my system has to metabolize it. This brings everything back into balance through connection… through relationship.

And in that relationship, nothing has to disappear for me to be okay. No part of me needs silencing or exile in order for wholeness to exist. Wholeness happens because I stay.

When I offer myself this kind of presence, something ancient relaxes. My body trusts me. Wisdom and intuition come online. Choice and empowerment become available. My inner world exhales. And healing happens not through effort, but through relationship.

She’s allowed to be here.

And when I live from that truth, everything inside me begins to come home.