Beauty Routine

I’m 40 years old, and honestly, the best beauty routine I’ve discovered is one that focuses on my happiness. I know this sounds cliché or even insensitive. I get it. I have a relationship with depression, so how can I say that in order to look my best, I must focus on being happy?

Well what I’ve learned is that when I come back to myself and truly meet myself with compassion, empathy and acceptance, I start to heal the wounds of neglect and abandonment that kept me in a dark and numbing place for so long. When I sit with myself and feel what has been suppressed, and meet the needs that have gone unmet, I slowly start to feel again, and happiness returns, but not in a one dimensional way. In a layered, wholesome way. 

Happiness is at the core of my being when I do this work. This work heals the little girl inside who needed to survive for so many years. 

Happiness is about getting back to curiosity and play as a default rather than being negatively biased. 

This happiness is me, my authentic, accountable, dignified self who loves owning her life and tending to her vessel. 

My face shows what state my soul is in. The trick for me though is not to make the goal about beauty! But rather, the goal is connection to self. The glow comes naturally when that’s my focus.