Three Questions
“The present moment is the only moment available to us, and it is the door to all moments.”
Curiosity has become one of the most powerful tools in my healing. Approaching myself with questions instead of judgment softens my inner world and reconnects me with the parts of me that fear being seen.
One daily practice I use is asking three questions:
“How do I feel, and what do I want?” This gently orients me inward. It helps me slow down and meet the needs beneath whatever is happening, especially when anxiety or anger is flooding my system. Rather than trying to fix or override myself, this question invites presence and honesty.
“How do I want to feel, and how can I support that?” Sometimes, I genuinely don’t know what I want. This question grounds me back to intention, helping me find direction without pressure and take small, supportive steps forward.
“What felt pleasant today, and how did my body tell me it was pleasant?” This question helps me savor the good, lean into gratitude, and consciously register moments when my nervous system felt safe and receptive. It teaches me to notice how pleasure speaks through the body, through ease, warmth, softening, breath, or a simple sense of enoughness.
Together, these three questions form a gentle pathway back to myself. They aren’t a quick fix, but a way to cultivate trust, presence, and self-alignment; listening to my body and emotions, responding with care, and making choices that feel grounded rather than forced.