Three Questions

Asking questions has become a very helpful tool for me. It turns out, curiosity is incredibly powerful and healing. One of my favorite questions is “How do I feel, and what do I want?” I love this question because it helps me come back to myself, and meet the need behind whatever is going on especially when I am stuck in needless emotional turmoil (NET).

Sometimes I don’t know what I want though. So I ask a second question: “How do I want to feel, and how will I accomplish it?” This question is so helpful, either as an intention or to ask in the moment when “what do I want?” feels hard to answer. It gives me confidence to move forward.

Lately I have been asking myself a third question at the end of the day, to help me savor the good moments, lean into gratitude and register when my nervous system was in receptivity mode (or rest and digest): “What is something that felt pleasant today, and how did my body tell me it was pleasant?”

This three question combo has been my ticket back to my paper, where I feel so empowered!