Today, marks a significant moment. A moment that speaks of our story, our journey that is unlike any other, completely unique and tailor made just for our souls. While 10 years ago I vowed to be your wife till death do us part, I feel that today as I renew my vow to you, I speak from a place of greater truth and deeper understanding. 10 years is no small feat yet it is only the beginning. 10 years brings us to a dance that does away with naivety, opens our eyes and dares us to jump in deeper. 10 years has opened my heart in ways I can’t explain and challenged me to love with a greater perspective. It has shown me that love is not for gain. But rather it is a beautiful connection to someone, someone you can bend and evolve with, someone you can encourage and build up, someone you can let go of because you know they find their home by your side, someone you can depend on but not at the expense of their own boundaries or safety. Someone you can hold at night despite what the day brought, and kiss with tenderness, kindness and joy, or sometimes sadness and brokenness. Someone you can fight with, against the thief of joy and vulnerability. I have learnt that strength is not always loud and abrupt. But mostly it is soft and gracious. The strength of love is all about persistence, consistency and simplicity. The art of our love is about understanding each other with empathy while having the courage to speak the truth. Our love is about respecting, acknowledging and loving what we both bring to the table. Our love is about releasing each other rather than holding on too tightly. Our love is quietly confident, a smile from across the room, or a glance can speak a thousand words. Our love is embedded in a hard journey of building trust and forgiveness, renewing our hearts and retraining our minds, breaking down preconceived ideas to learn how to be exactly who we are, honest and true. And all of it never changes the fact that our love continues to evolve, from strength to strength.
I want to thank you for loving me through all the seasons so far. Thank you for your grace, patience and support. Thank you for thinking the best of me and forgiving me when I’ve made mistakes or hurt you. Thank you for sharing your world with me, trusting me with your heart and teaching me how to do this well. Thank you for your vulnerability even when I thought you were holding back. Thank you for being consistent and true to yourself. Thank you for your strength but also your brokenness. It is an honour to hold you in my arms, to do this life with you, to raise children with you, to laugh and cry with you. And it’s an honour to walk every path we’ve walked, to fight every battle, to dance every victory and to believe for a fulfilling and anointed future with you. I thank God for our story.
I vow to continue to flourish and change with you, because I love you too much to remain stagnant. I vow to always be empathetic, and to think the best of you in all situations. I commit to understanding you, in every chapter of our story. I vow to uphold you in the best light, especially around our children and others. I vow to respect you for who you are in every season and I commit to supporting you in your own individual heart, soul, work, life journey, as well as our journey together. I vow to be a team player. I want to learn how to be more casual and lighthearted for you so we can laugh through thick and thin. I want to learn how to be still and rest in our love in this next season, and do away with restlessness or doubt. I want to stop interrupting you when you talk (because I love and value what you have to say in every conversation). I promise I’ll always do my best and I also promise that God will carry us, especially when we both fall short.
As long as there is breath in my lungs, I will never leave your side nor forsake our soul’s journey of love, friendship, growth and purpose, together.