Sometimes we are critical simply because we sit on the sideline, wishing we had the balls to do what we see others doing.
I’ve always loved the female form. I remember doing a sculpture in art class back in high school of my own feminine form (but I couldn’t admit to anyone that the sculpture was of me). I’d sit in front of the mirror naked to take mental notes. This was huge for me because I suffered from eating disorders, self hate, depression and anxiety for pretty much all of my pre and teenage years. I have always struggled to accept my form. To be proud of it. To stand tall, without shame. I’ve always worried about what people would say or think if I actually started loving my figure —wearing clothes that expressed my figure in a beautiful, authentic way, walking with my head high, embracing a love for who I am and how I enter a room or engage with life. And so I would get critical when seeing other women in all their gorgeous glory, strutting with pride and authenticity, being true to their stunning form without shame. Yet I was secretly fascinated by it all, wishing I too could strut in all my glory, with colour and confidence. Unfortunately I have always felt shame around this fascination.
So on this journey of waking up my identity, I’m putting an end to non constructive criticism. I'm giving birth to a new perspective. I’m learning to dance not just for fun but for expression, to dance physically and emotionally, mentally and spiritually because I feel genuine in that, genuine in celebrating the art of form and movement. I'm learning to enjoy wearing clothes that speak of my truth; to be confident strutting with intention; to love my posture and celebrate my form. And I'm loving encouraging other woman to do the same and celebrate their own individuality rather than criticize.
Cheers to confronting shame and divorcing its hold. We are amazing, intricate, unique and incredible creatures —made from an image of love with creative fibers in every cell. If you find yourself being critical, ask yourself the question, why? Are you holding back? Are you afraid or stuck in shame? Let go and do what you desire to do. Be who you desire to be. You’ll figure it all out. Better to be true to yourself and figure things out along the way than be stuffed up pretending to be perfect.